The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck review

It’s entertaining and at times insightful, but this is hobbyist-psychology at best. What gives it away is Manson’s generalisation of all Russians; how they’re blunt and not trying to be nice, and how that proves they’re more trustworthy then American citizens — or the plethora of random anecdotes followed by “That’s basically how our brains work” or “That’s our ego in a nutshell”. A more honest title would have been ‘My growing up as party boy to having some common sense’. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is surely bound to make people feel better, but I’d recommend reading something of substance rather than this feel-good pseudo psychology.

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