Opposites

By:  March 15, 2020 Categories: 

Virtue signaling is just as offensive as what it calls out,
empathy is often narcissism in disguise,
and nostalgia isn’t different than fear of future.

Freedom means you can be hateful as well as happy,
and positive thinking can be just as dangerous as negative thinking.

Humility is no different than arrogance,
for the man who drives a cheap car to show his modesty
is really no different than the one who parades his wealth.

If you think that inside you’re a lazy/mean/ selfish / cynical / arrogant / inconsiderate person,
just realize that the self-control you impose on that is just as much part of your personality.

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