Life in a café

“Did you grow?”, “No? What do you mean?”, “Well, I meant you maybe have grown fat.”

A lady pruning flowers with all the patience in the world. She puts them in a vase before deciding they should be cut a bit shorter: “This is too high over the edge.”

Another lady wears a green hat, despite this in Chinese culture having some bad associations: “没什么不可以的, it was given to me, nothing bad about it, I like it and don’t care.”

Another girl says: “嗯嗯,En, en, when my phone is charged I go.”

Life in a lively coffee shop by the name of Coco 口口.

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