When Breath Becomes Air review

You’d think the world has enough books from terminal cancer patients, who, in the face of death, try to give us all an urgent message that money and careers don’t matter — but only love does. And how would anyone disagree with those sentiments, taking place in hospitals and bad-news conversations. The message is always the same — and this book is no different. The key difference is that this one is written to sing a beautiful yet sad song — the words flowing into a single note, thick of human insights and wondering. It’s such a good book because even before his terminal diagnosis, Kalanithi loved books and wanted to write — and I think parts were written before the diagnosis, because that is exactly what a person who writes such a book would have done. It’s a sad book but you feel better about everything after reading it.

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