Queens WeChat group

A friend gave me a peak into a female-only WeChat group for preparing/planning pregnancy, named “Queens” (in Chinese).

“It started with only three people, but now we’re over fifty. Not just in Shanghai anymore.”

They’re encouraging each other and sharing so many details openly with strangers.

“When we fell in love it was so romantic, but now he just plays video games all day. I cannot stand him. To share the room is just a task now. Get it over with.”

“My husband is my first boyfriend. I regret this a little bit! Only one in my whole life!”

Also success stories and tips:
“I tried for 5 years, never succeeded. And then I went to this doctor and immediately got pregnant!”. And then the contact details of the hospital or doctor are shared.

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