Garden of the mind

My New Year’s Resolution is to look for the good in people — as daft as it sounds.

Because you see and feel what you look for.

You can focus on bad shit and be totally right. But it’ll grow and grow until it becomes all of who you are.

You can only be happy once you start spending more time thinking about the people you love instead of the people you dislike — once you spend more time being grateful for what you have, instead of being resentful with what you don’t have. It determines the story you tell yourself about your life.

It works the other way around as well. The way you see others is a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you constantly envy or distrust others — worry about the happiness they’ll return to you — they’ll react accordingly. And the way you see them is who they become.

If you stop focussing on negative ideas, you’ll find out they’ll disappear on their own. Ideas are only as important as you let them be. And you’ll find out that that vacant space becomes filled with love. If you live from love, nothing can make you sad.

Easier said than done, but we have the whole of 2021 to try.

(The mind is a garden in which you can grow colorful flowers or multiplying-weeds. And the thing with gardens is; you don’t just take care of a garden, it also takes care of you.)

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